O sister! What do you know about intermingling?
O sister! O pearl that Islam has cherished in her bud… has honored in her early childhood and forbidden her to be buried alive upon birth… has magnified her status that she become the key to Paradise for the fathers.
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most merciful.
All Praises and thanks be to Allah, we thank Him, and we seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. We appeal for Allah’s refuge from the evils of our souls and from the evils of our deeds. This who is guided by Allah will not be misled by anyone, and this who is misled by Him will not be guided by anyone. I bear witness that there is no god but Allah with no partner and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.
O sister! O pearl that Islam has cherished in her bud… has honored in her early childhood and forbidden her to be buried alive upon birth… has magnified her status that she become the key to Paradise for the fathers. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has said: “he who has three daughters whom he accommodates, mercies and takes good care of; but that Paradise is inevitably due to him”. [Al-Albani, authentic due to other narrations]
«من كن له ثلاث بنات يؤويهن ويرحمهن ويكفلهن؛ وجبت له الجنة البتة» الألباني، صحيح لغيره
When she turned into a young woman, Islam has reserved her by the veil… it has protected her from every evil eye. Allah Almighty has said: {O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allâh is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.} [Surat Al-Ahzâb 33:59]
{يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُل لِّأَزْوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاءِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِن جَلَابِيبِهِنَّ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰ أَن يُعْرَفْنَ فَلَا يُؤْذَيْنَ ۗ وَكَانَ اللَّـهُ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا} الأحزاب: 59
Transliteration: Ya ayyuha alnnabiyyu qul liazwajika wabanatika wanisai almumineena yudneena AAalayhinna min jalabeebihinna thalika adna an yuAArafna fala yuthayna wakana Allahu ghafooran raheeman
And Islam is keeping on protecting her and her rights so that no harm shall befall her… so that no evil shall touch her. Islam has shown her the path of chastity and integrity… it has urged her to follow it… it has revealed the ways of intermingling and regrets… it has forbidden her to take such ways… its plain statement (the Quran) is a comprehensive and conclusive way to every Muslim woman, who believe in Allah and the Last Day... who hopes for meeting her Lord.
Here is the Muslim sister: her marital rights are protected... her value in the family is elevated... she is the key of happiness to her husband... she is the door of mercy and more than that to her children... her share is still high in the rest of the stages of her life.
Which religion has protected the rights of women as they have been protected by Islam? And which religion has preserved the rights of girls as they have been preserved by Islam? And we are confronted by a prejudiced wave of globalization... trying its best to find a foothold in the culture of the Muslim sister...
It glorifies “the alleged liberalization” and hit on the tones of intermingling... it timidly beats the drums for unveiling... it goes forward and backwards... it has not realized yet that a Muslim girl is stronger by her faith in Allah to be penetrated by those extraneous calls... How would she be penetrated and that she has believed in Allah as her Lord... and in Muhammad as the Messenger, and in Islam as her religion?... And those calls are nothing from her Islam!
Here -O sister- is a useful reminder about intermingling and its harms... to awaken the sense of jealousy in the pure depths of your heart... and to save you from uncertainty and confusion.
What is intermingling? What are its dimensions and harms?
What is the meaning of intermingling?
Intermingling is a behavior which meaning is obvious from its letter. It is a phenomenon where the differences that Allah has prescribed between the sexes disappear; it is the disruption of the screens which Allah has enjoined between women and men.
This shameful behavior -the behavior of intermingling- is based on a corrupt principle which is to abolish the laws decreed by Allah Glorified and Exalted concerning the relationship between women and men in general... and the destruction of modesty on the rock of degradation.
It is a call to liberation; not from the machinations of the Devil... or from the whispers of the inner self which is inclined towards evil... or from the followers of passion or the way of the infidels... but it is a call to liberation from the laws for which Allah, Glorified and Exalted, has sent the Messengers, as well as scriptures.
It is a massive wave, its wind blew along with colonialism, and its tornado is the strongest; addressing each and every one; tearing away modesty and jealousy.
It is tearing away virtue and all meanings of purity by day and night. Its slogan is: I want to destroy virtue.
Intermingling is a lot of mixtures that include:
- The equality of women and men in rights and duties.
- Breaking modesty and making women adopt the masculine manners.
- The absence of the meanings of the legitimate differences that Allah has enjoined between women and men, and dissolving them in the alleged cry of liberation as salt dissolves in water.
Have you known, O sister, the meaning of intermingling?
It is the great deviation from the right path that Allah has drawn for you in life. {Allâh wishes to accept your repentance, but those who follow their lusts, wish that you (believers) should deviate tremendously away (from the Right Path).} [Surat An-Nisâ’ 4:27]
{وَاللَّـهُ يُرِيدُ أَن يَتُوبَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَيُرِيدُ الَّذِينَ يَتَّبِعُونَ الشَّهَوَاتِ أَن تَمِيلُوا مَيْلًا عَظِيمًا} النساء: 27
Transliteration: WaAllahu yureedu an yatooba AAalaykum wayureedu allatheena yattabiAAoona alshshahawati an tameeloo maylan AAatheeman
It is a new doctrine generated by the case of the psychological defeat before the alien calls of the dens of the West that has a stinking path.
It is a lizard’s hole which scent has defused; no one enters it but he who Allah has disabled his sense of smelling... and blurred his vision and understanding!
What is the ruling of intermingling?
O sister, the Islamic ruling on intermingling is too obvious to be explained. Both the common people and the prominent scholars equally agree on its prohibition. And how not and that there is a consensus that it is prohibited as it contradicts the clear texts that: “distinction and separation between women and foreign men.” The Islamic community is an individual one; men have their communities and so do women. A woman will not go out to the society of men unless there is a need and following the religious disciplines.
All the previous are to preserve honors and lineages, and to guard virtues. It is to get far away from the insecurities and vices, and in order not to distract women from their essential functions in their homes. Hence, intermingling is prohibited, whether in educational institutions or work, conferences, seminars, public and private meetings and other; because of what it may lead to of indecent assaults, disease of the hearts, thoughts of the souls, and men behaving like women and women taking the manners of men, the disappearance of modesty, the shrinking of chastity and the lack of jealousy. (The Guardians of Virtue p. 97)
One of the great evils and significant afflictions is the intermingling between men and women, and crowding together with them; which is found in many shops and stores. This is contrary to Islam, and other than the guidance of the righteous ancestors. The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has come out of the mosque and that women have intermingled with men, so the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him has said: “linger behind; you should not embrace the road, you should stick by the side of the road.” [Declared good by Al-Albani]
«استأخرن؛ فإنه ليس لكن أن تحققن الطريق، عليكن بحافات الطريق» حسنه الألباني
So women used to stick by the walls that their dresses would hang by them. The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has warned against the intermingling of women with men even in the houses of worship. (By analogical deduction we say: if intermingling is prohibited in houses of worship, then it is more obligatory to be prohibited in work places, marketplaces, the roads and the like. So, ponder, O sister). The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has said: “the best rows for women are the last ones and the worst ones for them are the first ones.” [Reported by Muslim]
«خير صفوف النساء آخرها وشرها أولها» رواه مسلم
The last rows are the best because they are the farthest from men, from intermingling with them and seeing them. This is clear evidence that Islam prefers for women to be away from men and not to intermingle with them and that this is better for them. So it is worthy of our women to stay at their homes as Allah Almighty has said: {And stay in your houses} [Surat Al-Ahzâb 33:33],
{وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ} الأحزاب: 33
Transliteration: Waqarna fee buyootikunna
and not to go out to marketplaces. It will be hard at first, but they will eventually get accustomed to it. They will become the chaste women in veil, the modest and the adornment of the house.
The guardian men should pay attention to that and perform what Allah has enjoined upon them of preserving and taking care of them so that Allah will set right their affaires from affliction. Allah Almighty has said: {O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allâh, but do that which they are commanded} [Surat At-Tahrîm 66:6] (Guidance to the Believing Women, Ibn Uthaymîn, p. 17).
{يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ اللَّـهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ} التحريم: 6
Transliteration: Ya ayyuha allatheena amanoo qoo anfusakum waahleekum naran waqooduha alnnasu waalhijaratu AAalayha malaikatun ghilathun shidadun la yaAAsoona Allaha ma amarahum wayafAAaloona ma yumaroona
The harms of intermingling and its dangers
O Sister, keep in mind that Allah Glorified and Exalted will not prohibit anything but that because of its harms and dangers. Intermingling is an obvious clear danger. It is the hammer by which modesty, chastity and all meanings of virtues are destroyed. Such meanings, if withdrawn from the morals of women and men, houses and communities are destructed.
Nations do but exist when ethics exist
If they are gone, nations are gone
Intermingling leads to seclusion, it is seclusion itself. And no man is privately alone with a woman; but their third is Satan, as established in a lot of Hadith.
Intermingling calls for lust. Lust starts with the look; which is undoubtedly to happen with seclusion and intermingling. The look is the messenger of adultery, hence Allah Glorified and Exalted has said: {Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allâh is All-Aware of what they do.} [Surat An-Nûr 24:30]
{قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَزْكَىٰ لَهُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ} النور: 30
Transliteration: Qul lilmumineena yaghuddoo min absarihum wayahfathoo furoojahumthalika azka lahum inna Allaha khabeerun bima yasnaAAoona
If someone says that this is unrealistic and the evidence is that there are a lot of men intermingling with women and there is no place for lust… we will answer: in most cases the instinct lust is aroused by intermingling leading to seclusion. The look and others are from the reasons of affliction which is clearly shown in the verse; and no sane mind dispute over that.
Ibn al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy on him, said: “There is no doubt that enabling women to intermingle with men is the root of all calamities and evils. It is one of the greatest causes of public punishments, as that it is the cause of the corruption of the public’s and the elite’s matters. The intermingling of men and women is a reason for the large number of indecency and adultery; it is one of the leading causes of general death and continuous plagues.
One of the main reasons of general death: the large number of adultery due to enabling women to intermingle with men and to walk among them unveiled, in full adornment. If the guardian men knew what corruption of this worldly life and people (not to mention religion) this matter lead to, they would have been sterner in forbidding intermingling. (The Wise Ways by Ibn al-Qayyim, p. 324)
O sister, this is intermingling and these are its harms. It contains all aspects of affliction and slavery. So how could they push it falsely into the dictionary of freedom?
Its being affliction is that because it destroys the godly barriers that enjoins women to take veil from men; which prevents women from meeting men but for a dire need; to push away danger and preserves honors. Allah Almighty has said in the verse of the veil: {That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed.} [Surat Al-Ahzâb 33:59]
{ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰ أَن يُعْرَفْنَ فَلَا يُؤْذَيْنَ} الأحزاب: 59
Transliteration: thalika adna an yuAArafna fala yuthayna
The veil of the Muslim sister is evidence of her chastity.
One of its greatest purposes: pushing away the harm from the eyes of the foolish, and their sedition, and the like. In the Hadith: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessing of Allah be upon him, has said: “After me I have not left any affliction more harmful to men than women.” [Agreed upon]
«ما تركت بعدي فتنة أضر على الرجال من النساء» متفق عليه
This is evidence that intermingling is prohibited to prevent sedition. There is nothing in this Hadith that belittles the woman, on the contrary it embodies her innate nature; her femininity along with the innate desire and instinct in the heart of a man are aroused by intermingling and seeing each other.
Allah Glorified and Exalted has said: {and man was created weak (cannot be patient to leave sexual intercourse with woman).} [Surat An-Nisâ’ 4:28]
{وَخُلِقَ الْإِنسَانُ ضَعِيفًا} النساء: 28
Transliteration: wakhuliqa alinsanu daAAeefan
It was said in interpreting it: he cannot bear the sedition of women. So, the weakness of man and the charm of a woman are the basis of the occurrence of harm during intermingling. Hence Allah has prohibited it and the causes leading to it. He has not allowed the seclusion of a man and a woman. He has prohibited them to take after the manners and attitudes of each other. He has prohibited the deliberate look of each one to the other. And he has prohibited women to travel alone without a mahrim (male relative like a husband, father, brother, a man prohibited to get married to) so that she would not be a cause of sedition with which virtue is destroyed.
As that intermingling is slavery, it is that it is slavery to impure evil desires and lusts. It is deviation from guidance. Allah Glorifies and Exalted has said: {Have you (O Muhammad) seen him who has taken as his ilâh (god) his own vain desire?} [Surat Al-Furqân 25:43].
{أَرَأَيْتَ مَنِ اتَّخَذَ إِلَـٰهَهُ هَوَاهُ} الفرقان: 43
Transliteration: Araayta mani ittakhatha ilahahu hawahu
If anyone calls it liberation, it is liberation from worshipping Allah Glorified and Exalted, and accepting the worshipping of lust and impure desires.
It is affliction and affliction has a sign
No one would see the inclination
The slave to lustrous desire
The free sometimes fulfills sometimes abstains
How can you avoid intermingling?
O sister, when you hear that intermingling is the freedom and the light of civilization, remember that the Light is Allah, He is the Light of the heavens and the earth. Abiding by the veil is from the Light of Allah which He has guided you to, He has enlightened you by His Light. {Light upon Light! Allâh guides to His Light whom He wills} [Surat An-Nûr 24:35]
{نُّورٌ عَلَىٰ نُورٍ ۗ يَهْدِي اللَّـهُ لِنُورِهِ مَن يَشَاءُ} النور: 35
Transliteration: noorun AAala noorin yahdee Allahu linoorihi man yashao
As for intermingling it is a mixture of blends {(layers of) darkness upon darkness: if a man stretches out his hand, he can hardly see it! And he for whom Allâh has not appointed light, for him there is no light.} [Surat An-Nûr 24:40]
{ظُلُمَاتٌ بَعْضُهَا فَوْقَ بَعْضٍ إِذَا أَخْرَجَ يَدَهُ لَمْ يَكَدْ يَرَاهَا ۗ وَمَن لَّمْ يَجْعَلِ اللَّـهُ لَهُ نُورًا فَمَا لَهُ مِن نُّورٍ} النور: 40
Transliteration: thulumatun baAAduha fawqa baAAdin itha akhraja yadahu lam yakad yaraha waman lam yajAAali Allahu lahu nooran fama lahu min noorin
Remember that the call for intermingling is a strange call inspired by the West from the rubbish of its falling philosophy. Its women are staggering under the horrors of degradation and servitude. If the groans of its women and the desperate cries of its girls are heard they will stun the minds... the latest fashion and style... the culture of decadence which is promoted by its naive men and women... Remember that no matter how strong intermingling has become, it is just an idea; it does not invade the minds which are fortified by science, the hearts which are full of faith or the reassuring souls of the guidance of Islam.
Leave the nonsense of the foolish who say
Progress is in western unveiling
Learn, get educated and enlightened
O sister, the truth is you should learn
O sister, your home, your home. You are its basis and serenity. By leaving it, I can only see that it is inclined to disruption, enfeebled by difficult problems. On the Day of Judgment, you will be held responsible for this.
You are the brightness of marital life... the source of mercy in the responsibility of education... it will not be finished... its light will not get high... unless you become the friendly good wife inside of it... the responsible and compassionate advising mother.
Sister, if you look into the verses of the Holy Quran, you will find that houses are added to women in three verses. Although houses belong to the husbands or the guardians of women, this addition was made -and Allah knows best- to consider the continuity of women staying at their homes and abiding by them; so this addition is to stress the staying at home not the owning of the house.
Allah Almighty has said: {And stay in your houses} [Surat Al-Ahzâb: from verse 33]
{وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ} الأحزاب: 33
Transliteration: Waqarna fee buyootikunna
He has also said: {And remember (O you the members of the Prophet’s family, the Graces of your Lord), that which is recited in your houses of the Verses of Allâh and Al-Hikmah (i.e. Prophet’s Sunnah - legal ways, so give your thanks to Allâh and glorify His Praises for this Qur’ân and the Sunnah)} [Surat Al-Ahzâb 33:34]
{وَاذْكُرْنَ مَا يُتْلَىٰ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ مِنْ آيَاتِ اللَّـهِ وَالْحِكْمَةِ} الأحزاب: 34
Transliteration: Waothkurna ma yutla fee buyootikunna min ayati Allahi waalhikmati
And He, the Glorified and Exalted, has said: {And turn them not out of their (husband’s) homes} [Surat At-Talâq 65:1]
{لَا تُخْرِجُوهُنَّ مِن بُيُوتِهِنَّ} الطلاق: 1
Transliteration: la tukhrijoohunna min buyootihinna
By preserving this foundation the following religious goals will be achieved:
1 – Taking into account what the innate natures has ruled, the condition of the human existence and the law of the Lord of the Universe; the just share amongst His slaves that a woman’s labor is inside the house and a man’s is outside it.
2 – Taking into account that the Islamic community is individual, it is not mixed. The woman has her own special community which is inside the house. The man has his own special community which is outside the house.
3 – The settlement of a woman in the den of her life function (her house) gains her the time and feeling of fulfilling her multi-function job at home. She is a wife, mother, guardian to her husband’s house, fulfilling his rights from repose, preparing food and cloth. She is the educator of generations.
It was established in the Hadith narrated by ibn ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him and his father, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has said: “A woman is the guardian of her husband’s house and is responsible for it” [Agreed upon]
«المرأة راعية في بيت زوجها ومسؤولة عن رعيتها» متفق عليه
Peace and blessings of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his family and companions.
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