He has been guided recently, and his family and friends mock him. What should he do?

I used to be very sinful, my most beloved hobby was to sin. I used to take drugs (hashish, pills, and wine) and I used also to commit adultry.
By Allah’s grace, I repented from the sin of adultry before marriage but the sin of taking drugs remained. It was because of the bad companions I had. Then one of my cousins died, he was of similar age to me. But he was not married, I thought about my situationand that someone who is younger than me has passed away, and we were comitting the same sin togeather, taking drugs.  
Allah has guided me by His grace, so I gave up all sins, I even broke the satellite dish. My life has changed 180 degrees. I became charitable, pray, call people for good and denounce evil, distribute tapes and booklets and attend lectures.
The problem:


I face criticism, starting from family, mother and sisters, that I am strict. They want to listen to songs and watch series on television. If I advise them and say that what they are doing is haram they say: “why is istighfaar (seeking Allah’s forgiveness) prescribed?, If you do not want to listen to songs and watch television then leave, we want to watch and listen” the same problem happens at work as well, I have left home more than one time, my wife stays with them, I take her with me when I leave, but they ask me to let her stay with them. I refuse and my wife feels embarrassed and fears her situation causes any problems. But when I leave her with them, she sits far from TV and from where they sit.  Sometimes I hear my mother making du’aa against me saying: “I wish Allah did not guide you, you made us restless” I seek refuge with Allah from what she says.

 

My problem at work is, that I work in a military sector, all colleagues are bad, the religious ones are only three, there are six bearded brothers. They get over so many things, the rest of them take hashish and drugs, flirt women and majority are of course smokers.


They all agreed on insulting me, whenever I sit with them, they remind me of my past. They mock the bearded brothers, slander them and describe them as (liers and terrorists) and I feel jealous for them and say: “you are slandering your brothers, they are muslims, you should not mock the beard because it is sunnah to keep it”. Sheikh, they gave me bad reputaion, they always critisize the bearded brothers, they never mention anything good about them.


Is letting my beard grow, abiding by sharia, enjoining good and denouncing evil in this time a crime that I have to pay for, or become immoral like them?
Even my boss, he says: “you bearded men, I will put you under the misoscope, I will not forgive any mistake you do”


I have tried some solutions:
Firstly: I asked to move to another administration, but my request will take some time.
Secondly: I cut my relationship with everyone insulted me by a word or an action. This helped limit the problem. But I do not like this way, as people became careful when they deal with me and fear that anything they say may be disliked by me. So they dislike me and make others dislike me as well.
I wish you provide me with the suitable solution for my problem because I became really tired of it.

Praise be to Allaah.Congratulations on your repentance, O slave of Allaah. Congratulations on turning back to your Lord. Praise be to Allaah Who has saved you from the path of misguidance and temptation, and has brought you back to the path of repentance and guidance. May Allaah increase you in ... Continue Reading

Ruling on the discharges that come out from the woman’s uterus

A girl noticed some thin discharge on her underwear but she had not felt it come out. Is it permissible for her to pray with her underwear on which this discharge has gotten? If it is not permissible, then does she have to repeat her wudoo’ and change her underwear?.

Praise be to Allaah.   The discussion on such discharges focuses on two issues:1- Is it taahir (pure) or naajis (impure)?The view of Abu Haneefah and Ahmad, and one of the two views narrated from al-Shaafa’i -which al-Nawawi classed as correct- is that it is pure. This view was ... Continue Reading

Differences between semen (maniy) and urethral fluid (madhiy)

Some times when i wake up in the morning, i find some wet coming out. Please don't take it as a wet dream, or urine, becuase the sticky stuff comes out usually just after i have woken up in the morning. Most of the days i have to wash my under wear just becasue of that, and sometimes i wash my pants too.


I read it somewhere that if its not semen, just that sticky stuff than we don't need to perform ghusl, and only wuzu is enough to offer prayers. If it is then what about the clothes?. The same stuff comes out during some salacious situations also, though i try to stay away from all that kind of stuff.

The first difference: qualitiesSemen in the case of men is a thick, white liquid, and in the case of women it is thin and yellow. (Translator’s note: the word maniy is used to refer to the fluid secreted by either male or female at the time of orgasm).The source for these descriptions of ... Continue Reading

The discharge which is passed continuously by a woman does not have any effect on the fast


Please tell me if a transparent fluid like water is excreted which becomes white coloured after drying is our fast and prayer valid? is ghusl farz on us or not.please please tell me because i pass this thing alot and find it on my underwear and i do ghusl 2 or 3 times a day to make my fast and prayer valid.plz tell me whatis this and what should i do.

Praise be to Allaah. This kind of discharge is passed a great deal by women. It is taahir (pure) and not naajis (impure), and there is no need to do ghusl because of it. All it does is invalidate wudoo’. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked about it ... Continue Reading

Things that make ghusl obligatory

What are the things that make ghusl obligatory?.

Praise be to Allaah.The things that make ghusl obligatory are six things. If one of them happens then the Muslim has to do ghusl. 1- Emission of maniy (semen) from its exit in the male or female, which happens either when one is awake or when one is asleep. If it is emitted when one is awake, ... Continue Reading

Description of how to do ghusl for major impurity

How is major ablution done? There are differences of opinion in a number of madhhabs, so who should I follow?
How did the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) to minor and major ablution?.

Praise be to Allaah. Firstly:You do not have to follow a particular madhhab; rather you have to ask a scholar whom you trust, one who is famous among the people for his knowledge and virtue, then follow the religious rulings that he explains to you. It does not matter if there are differences ... Continue Reading

One should not exaggerate in cleaning oneself after relieving oneself

I have a serious problem when purifying myself from major impurity, because I purify myself with a little water, then I wipe myself sometimes 21 times and sometimes more than that, yet I still see traces, which makes me purify myself again with water. Hence I spend a long time in the washroom in order to cleanse myself, which has damanged my health. What is your opinion? Is there a specific number of times for wiping oneself in order to become pure?.

Praise be to Allaah.Firstly:The phrase major impurity applies to janaabah (impurity following sexual activity), menses and nifaas (postpartum bleeding). The way to purify oneself from that is: the woman should start by cleaning her private parts, then makes the water reach all parts of her body. ... Continue Reading

Does the one who takes a shower to cool down have to do wudoo’ for prayer?

Is it Correct to pray without wadoo immedietly after coming from a normal bath.

Praise be to Allaah. It is mustahabb for a Muslim to do wudoo’ before ghusl, following the example of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). If ghusl is done in cases of major impurity such as janaabah (impurity following sexual activity) and menstruation, and the ... Continue Reading

Is it necessary to do wudoo’ before doing ghusl for making oneself pure (tahaarah)

I would like to know if it's okay if i didn't make wudu after taking a bath???

Praise be to Allaah.If you are referring to the ritual bath of ghusl, then the answer is as follows:(Al-Bukhaari reported in [al-Saheeh 248]) from ‘Aa’ishah that when the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did ghusl to purify himself from janaabah (impurity following ... Continue Reading

Description of wudoo’

please oh brothers could you please tell me how a woman could perform wudu for my wife and also could you please tell me how to say ayat al kursi in arabic words but english text as iam yearning to learn the beautiful ayat which the almighty has mentioned so much about him self.please please could you answer this one asmy heart is yearning for it.
may allah bless our beloved prophet and his family and his companions.

Praise be to Allaah.Firstly we praise Allaah for having guided you and opened your heart. We ask Allaah to make us and you steadfast in obeying Him. We appreciate your efforts to learn about your religion and we advise you to strive to acquire knowledge so that your worship will be correct. Try to ... Continue Reading

Is it acceptable to use tissue only when cleaning oneself after defecating?

Is it sufficient to use tissue only when cleaning oneself after defecating, or is it essential to use water?.

 

Praise be to Allaah.After relieving oneself, it is obligatory to remove whatever najaasah (impurity) there is in that place, whether it is removed with water or something else, such as stones or paper or tissues, but using water is best.The scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas were ... Continue Reading

Is istinjaa’ necessary each time one does wudoo’?

Does a person have to do istinjaa’ (wash the private parts with water) every time he wants to do wudoo’?

Praise be to Allaah.Istinjaa’ is not necessary each time a person wants to do wudoo’. It is essential after passing urine or stools, when a person must wash his private parts before doing wudoo’ for prayer. (Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, [5/102])  Continue Reading

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