Thomas Webber, Ex-Christian, UK
Like most reverts to Islam my story is simple from the
perspective of an outsider. Young man finds a religion that's
different to his family's and eventually tells them and
reverts.
However, like many things in life, it is the travelling of the
journey and not the getting to the destination that seems most
hard. Of course with Islam the journey will never be complete until
it is ordained by Allah (subhanahu wa taala) but, instead we reach
milestones along the way. So I shall tell the story of my life
until now and my hopes and aspirations for the future.
I was born in the UK to a family of two loving parents and one
brother (Colin), shortly to be followed by my twin sister (Linda)
and later to my other two sisters Melissa (who died when I was very
little) and my youngest sister Emily.
I was never baptised, as my father did not believe in putting a
baby who could not object, through such a religious ceremony.
However, my mother would send us to a Christian Sunday school to
learn of Christianity.
Well, what can I say about that? Unfortunately for my mother my
mind was relatively astute at a young age and as a result I could
never understand why a loving and all powerful God could kill his
son to forgive us of our sins.
This was surely not right when if he was so all powerful and all
sins were against him he could just have forgiven us all. Surely
this is not what a loving God would do.
As the years drew on I disregarded what I was taught about God.
Religious holidays became all about presents and time off to relax.
I was lost but I didn't know it. After all, these religious people
would never be able to prove their religions like the sciences we
were taught at school. To me they were just weak-minded or
stupid.
As time went on I would continue to be successful at school and get
good grades pleasing my parents, and everything was fine. It wasn't
until sometime after my 13th birthday that I would start to become
religious.
When I say religious I don't mean in the sense of being a
practicing Christian. This, I could never be. But I did begin to
hope to some form of God that I would be successful and for all the
things I needed. It was more a trust in something for the things I
was unable to engineer for myself.
As I progressed through school I learnt of various religions and
Buddhism sounded like a good one, for there was no God and it was
all about being a good person, and after all that is basically what
I had learnt from Christianity.
I began to think that religions were all about one thing and that
was about making people become more moral. I continued to try and
be a good person but couldn't quite shake the thought that
something was missing.
A year or so before I left Senior School my brother became a
born-again Christian. Unfortunately for me this was a somewhat
negative experience as he would keep trying convert me to his
religion, and I still could not accept that Jesus (peace be upon
him) was killed to forgive us of our sins.
So I withdrew any signs of religious thinking away from my family
and friends to avoid further arguments and also being branded a
weirdo, (which was just one of the cruel jibes I now heavily regret
having landed upon my brother.)
My soul searching would continue to be repressed and hidden even
from me for the next year or so. And then came the terrorist
attacks on the World Trade Centre in America. At first when I was
told about it I didn't believe it could happen, but it had.
The news continued to report stories about it, but as it hadn't
affected me particularly I merely continued with my life. It wasn't
until reports of Islamic terrorists, reprisals against Muslims and
the attack on Afghanistan and later on Iraq that I began to
question my government and the US and move towards discovering the
truth of Islam.
I simply couldn't believe that Muslims could be terrorists capable
only of hatred and murder. This was just strange. So I ignored
this, but maybe this was when my mind became truly willing to learn
about religion for the first time.
It wasn't until I reached my first year of sixth-form College until
I was to make friends with a Muslim. At first I would never believe
she would be a friend as she said little until I got to know her.
In this friend lay the clear and defined evidence that Muslims were
not just crackpots and loonies and were in fact normal
people.
Eventually, I began to explore Islam on the internet when nobody
was around; as I was not prepared to let people know I would
consider any religion, let alone Islam of all religions. I began to
believe what I read but was still a little confused and my journey
to understanding was slow.
Eventually, the summer vacations came and I was on the edge of
belief in Islam. I wanted to believe it was true but how could I
prove it. From my years of good grades and trying to be perfect in
my parents' eyes I hated being wrong.
As it was the summer I could not easily meet my Muslim friend but
had so much I wanted to ask her. Occasionally she would call and I
would talk to her for hours trying to build up the courage to tell
her I needed her help.
Eventually I managed the courage to explain I was confused about
religion but could never admit I wanted to be a Muslim, as I didn't
know for certain that this was no whim as I had so much fear in my
mind. Well, eventually I managed to tell her and she had only good
things to say.
So, I was now certain that I had to become a Muslim but how would I
tell people and find out more. I knew I couldn't tell my family yet
as I remembered the cruelty I and my sisters had inflicted on my
brother upon his becoming a Christian. I was afraid I would receive
the same or worse.
After all he at least followed the religion of my country and that
we had been raised in, this would be totally different. Wouldn't
it? My journey from this point on was the hardest part. How can you
find out more if you couldn't tell anyone for fear your family
would find out? Well I'm glad to say eventually over a long period
of time I slowly managed to confide in friends and family.
I decided to say Shahadah on my 20th birthday, knowing if I didn't
set a date I would never do it. So the weekend before I went to the
Global Peace and Unity Conference in London which was truly
amazing.
I went knowing that the following Monday but it wasn't until the
Saturday night spent at a friends place that I KNEW for certain I
was going to say the Shahadah on the Monday.
For that night I lay trying to sleep and all I could here was the
Adhan ringing through my head. It was the best thing ever.
The next day I saw people making their own Shahadah and longed for
Monday to come. When the Monday finally did come and I finally did
say the Shahadah it felt odd. Almost like I was me at last.
I know the best stories all have a beginning middle and an end but
you'll have to wait a little longer for the end, but this journey
still hasn't finished. I still have the Quran and hadiths to learn
and so much more besides
By Thomas Webber
The Religion of Islam
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