Keeping a Jealous Eye on Honors

  • Categories: Asceticism and Heart Softening -

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

All praise be to Allah alone, and peace and blessings of Allah be upon him after whom there is no other prophet.

Defeats of nations and setbacks of people are not due to weakness of its financial power or to its lack of military equipments, if a man figures it out on that way, he is then suffering from immature thinking and poor insight. Verily, nations are not developed -by the will of Allah- but by the guarantees of the solid morals of the demeanors of men. Rather, the messages of Allah have not been revealed but with morals and the completion of these morals, after bearing witness of the oneness of Allah and worshipping Him. "I have been sent to complement the best of morals". [Authenticated by Al-Albani]

«إنما بعثت لأتمم صالح الأخلاق» صححه الألباني


An enemy stands helplessly before good morals and people of lustrous desires fall down by them.

When a society has a strict system of morals, a disciplined set of behaviors, if its people keep a jealous eye on the honor of the nation and of individuals therein, and if pleasing Allah is redeemed superior to its overwhelming lustrous desires, then its path is straightened in the way of truth, perseverance, elevation and reform.

* Morals, dear brothers, are not something that can be gained by reading and writing, neither by preaching or giving speeches. It is rather a rank; but ranks which cannot be obtained -after the success of Allah and His mercy- but by education and decorum, solidness and decisiveness, will power and determination.

*O virtuous brother: In your hands, in this flyer there is a report that contains an accurate measure of the measures of morals, a clear criterion of adjusting behaviors.

It is the report about jealousy. Jealousy O dear brother, may Allah preserve you. Jealousy… Jealousy over honors and protecting the sanctuary of the inviolable.

*O jealous man, every wise man, but rather every virtuous chivalrous man cannot accept but that his honor is worthy of praise and glorification. He insistently seeks more and more to preserve his honor as a conserved sanctity where no backbiters graze and no licentious wander.

* The man with noble honor spends all precious and dear to defend his honor. Verily a brave and chivalrous man offers his wealth to silence the tongues which speak badly or obscenely about his honor. Verily indeed, a chivalrous protects his honor with his money, as Allah will never bless the money which is not spent on protecting honors.

The matter is not only confined to this, the jealous man sacrifices his life, does his best, exposes himself to deathly arrows when he is attacked by an insult tarnishing his dignity. It is easier for noble men to experience body injuries and bloodshed so that minds become safer and honors are preserved. Your religion has reached the peak concerning this matter when your Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has stated that: "Whoever is killed while protecting his honor then he is a martyr." [Authenticated by Al-Albani]

«من قتل دون أهله فهو شهيد» صححه الألباني


*Dear brother, may Allah protect you, by saving its honor and dignity, the purity of religion and the beauty of humanity are shown clearly. But with desecrating and humiliating it, man descends to the lowest rank of animals` bestiality.

* Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy on him, said: (when jealousy departs from the heart, love is made to depart; rather the entire religion is made to depart.)

The companions of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, have been the most jealous men for their honors. It was narrated that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has said one day to his companions: "If any one of you enters upon his family and finds something that made him suspicious (about his honor), he should ask for the testimony of four people", Sa'd ibn 'Ubada stood up and was affected by that and said: O Messenger of Allah, do I enter upon my family and see what makes me suspicious about my honor and then wait till I have four persons to witness it?! No, by He Who has sent you with the truth!! If I see something suspicious in my family (about my honor), I will cut the head to be separated from the body, and I will beat with the sword with no tolerance, and after that let Allah acts in any way He wishes with me. The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has said: "Do you wonder about the jealousy of Sa'd!! by Allah I am more jealous than him, and Allah is more jealous than me, and for the sake of His jealousy, He has indeed forbidden Al-Fawâhish (great evil sins, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse) whether committed openly or secretly…" [This Hadith and its origin are in Bukhari and Muslim authentic books of Hadith.]

«قال سعد بن عبادة : يا رسول الله ! لو وجدت مع أهلي رجلا، لم أمسه حتى آتي بأربعة شهداء؟ قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: نعم، قال: كلا، والذي بعثك بالحق ! إن كنت لأعاجله بالسيف قبل ذلك. قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: اسمعوا إلى ما يقول سيدكم . إنه لغيور . وأنا أغير منه . والله أغير مني» رواه مسلم ومعنى آخره فى البخاري


Whoever is deprived of jealousy is deprived of the purity of life, and whoever is deprived of the purity of life then he is degraded to be lower than a beast of cattle. Only honorable men and women are praised for their feeling of jealousy.

Pure life needs the will of determination of the righteous, but the life of prostitution is easily steeped and collapsed. And therefore, Paradise is being surrounded by undesirable things and hell is being surrounded by lustrous desires.

* My Muslim brother: Verily, regret, all regret and sorrow, all sorrow upon that which the civility of this age has brought of the violent slaughter of honor and loathsome burying alive of jealousy... Outrageous details of adultery are presented through many means of mass media. It is rather that we see a man and a woman committing illegal sexual intercourse with its motives and erotic drives, they are seen embracing vice; uncovered from the eyes of the audience and the onlookers. The situation has altered for many people, for individuals and families as well; till the degraded and the vile have become the example and the role models to be followed. Their thoughts, behavior and conduct have become the medal of pride, and an epitome of manhood. O there is neither might nor power but with Allah.

Imagine -may Allah protect and preserve you- a malicious and a malevolent standing by the middle of the road committing adultery openly as the beasts of donkeys and pigs do -may Allah raise your position and purify your hearings.

Have souls been dried out of jealousy? Have they let shyness go? Has their radiance been extinguished? Are people having cuckolds within? Are there among them those who approve of immorality among their families?

The jealous man does not know to whom he can speak to!! Should he speak to the adulterers and prostitutes? Or where are the nobles and the chaste?

It is a shameless declaration of adultery and a boastful extravagance of impudence.

Evil songs, vicious films, scandalous soirees, licentious stories, dissolute clothes, erotic expressions and rakish movements: they are either audible, readable or watched in shameless ways and situations in many countries and regions except for those that Allah has mercy upon. They are present on beaches and parks and in market places and roads. There is no might or power but with Allah, and Allah (Alone) is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs (for us).

Allah (Alone) is Sufficient for us of the people who receive vice cheerfully, they wish if the whole generation is brought up within the mire of viciousness, and Allah (Alone) is Sufficient for us of those groups who wish that straight nature and high chastity are buried under the dust.

* What is this affliction? How can men of chivalry and women of chastity accept for themselves, their children and their sons this devastating scum of innovations of live broadcast and wide satellite channels?

Where has shyness gone? And where has the chivalry been lost? And where is jealousy in the houses that have prepared the environment of temptation for the youth and have dragged them deeply to the swamps of deterioration, and brought about inducers of vice which prompt them strongly to sin and induce them mightily to adultery?

A noble woman had seen alcoholic drinks, and then she asked: Do your women drink this? They replied: yes. She said: by the Lord of the Ka'ba, they have committed adultery.

*O dear brothers, the path of safety for those who want safety after believing in Allah, His mercy and His protection is a thing that emerges from the house and the environment. There are two environments: one that produces humility and the other that produces sublimity. Some homes are shaded by chastity and decency; others are full of indecency and evil. Chivalry is not protected and honor is not saved but when the young man and the young woman live in a decent home preserved by the Islamic instructions, morals of the Qur'an and abiding by modesty and chastity. A home where sexual motives and instruments of evil vanish, a home which is purified of the forbidden intermingling.

*Jealousy, jealousy, O Muslims, the in-laws of the wife are death itself, and be cautious about drivers, servants, family friends, sons of neighbors, not to mention suspicious doctors, dubious nurses. Be careful of being alone with merchants and teachers at home. Beware that these people or the like take a glimpse of the forbidden parts of women; this is the intermingling where there is no available remedy for ethic-free homes.

Have you contemplated -may Allah grant you success- the reason why chaste women are described as inattentive?

'Inattentive' is a mild and kind description which embodies the innocent society and the pure home in which girls are brought up as pure flowers who are ignorant of evil, they are inattentive to the tarnished raffish natures.

If this is the case, then contemplate also how vicious pens and degenerate movies cooperate to tear apart this veil of chastity, then they compete and race in explaining vice, uncovering secrets, disgracing hidden things and opening the eyes of children before the grownups; and evil indeed are the burdens that they will bear!!

*Dear Muslim brother, Dear Muslim sister: jealousy… jealousy. If you do not feel jealous, be sure that your Lord is jealous and that there is no one more jealous than Allah; and for that He has forbidden Al-Fawâhish (great evil sins, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse).

*O Nation of Muhammad, there is no one more jealous than Allah when His slaves, men or women commit adultery. Indeed Allah Almighty respites, but never forgets. If the ordinances of Allah are wasted, then how household cheatings, homosexuality, rapes, murders and assaults could be denounced? If the ordinances of Allah are wasted, society will burst with evil motives, it will be full of selfishness stimuli, and it will breed feelings of envy and hatred, and thus only a few will survive the corruption, the chaos and the bloodshed: {Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? (22) Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight. (23) Do they not then think deeply in the Quran, or are their hearts locked up (from understanding it)?}. [Muhammad 47:22-24].

{فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا۟ فِى ٱلْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوٓا۟ أَرْحَامَكُمْ ﴿٢٢﴾ أُو۟لَـٰٓئِكَ ٱلَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ ٱللَّـهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰٓ أَبْصَـٰرَهُمْ ﴿٢٣﴾ أَفَلَا يَتَدَبَّرُونَ ٱلْقُرْءَانَ أَمْ عَلَىٰ قُلُوبٍ أَقْفَالُهَآ} محمد: 22-24


Transliteration: Fahal AAasaytum in tawallaytum an tufsidoo fee alardi watuqattiAAoo arhamakum (22) Olaika allatheena laAAanahumu Allahu faasammahum waaAAma absarahum (23) Afalayatadabbaroona alqurana am AAala quloobin aqfaluha

*O people with jealous hearts: How many forts of virtue there are to which proud people resort to feel safe, thus they have become of the well-doers, and how many victims there are that vice has that it led them to disasters and perils so they have become losers.

Chastity and safety lie in the shades of virtue, but shame and humility lie in the shade of vice. The man has the upper hand in the family, and if he is weak, people will be spoiled, if they are spoiled, they would lose virtue and chastity, they would trade in honors, and they would become like water in a wilderness where every dog puts its tongue into and which is disturbed by every comer.

A young man came to the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, and said: O Apostle of Allah, give me permission to commit adultery, so people came to him and started to chide him. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, made him sit closer to him and said: "would you accept it for your mother? He said: no, may Allah make me sacrifice myself for your sake, the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has said: people would neither accept it for their mothers. He has said: would you accept it for your daughter? He said: no. He said: people would neither accept it for their daughters" the Prophet kept asking the young man if he would accept it for his sister, for his maternal aunt, for his parental aunt, all that and the young man answers with no by Allah, may Allah make me sacrifice myself for your sake. So the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has put his hand on him and has said: "O Allah forgive him, purify his heart and guard his chastity". After that the young man never looked around for any adulterous thing. [Reported by Imam Ahmed from the Hadith of Abu Umama, may Allah be pleased with him, Authenticated by Al-Albani].

«إن فتى شابا أتى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال: يا رسول الله ائذن لي بالزنا فأقبل القوم عليه فزجروه وقالوا: مه مه فقال: ادنه فدنا منه قريبا قال: فجلس قال: أتحبه لأمك ؟ قال: لا والله جعلني الله فداءك قال: ولا الناس يحبونه لأمهاتهم قال: أفتحبه لابنتك قال: لا والله يا رسول الله جعلني الله فداءك قال: ولا الناس يحبونه لبناتهم قال: أفتحبه لأختك قال: لا والله جعلني الله فداءك قال: ولا الناس يحبونه لأخواتهم قال: أفتحبه لعمتك قال: لا والله جعلني الله فداءك قال: ولا الناس يحبونه لعماتهم قال: أفتحبه لخالتك قال: لا والله جعلني الله فداءك قال: ولا الناس يحبونه لخالاتهم قال: فوضع يده عليه وقال: اللهم اغفر ذنبه وطهر قلبه وحصن فرجه فلم يكن بعد ذلك الفتى يلتفت إلى شيء» رواه الإمام أحمد وصححه الألباني


*O jealous men and women, this is the jealousy and this is the status of many people. Is it not the time for Muslims to think again and fear their Lord, to be aware of their responsibilities: boys and girls, men and women? May Allah bestow success upon all to what He loves and to what pleases Him. May Allah reform our condition and gather the word of Muslims on the right way. May He guide us to the truth and the straight path.


His Eminence Sheikh: Dr Saleh Ibn Abdullah Ibn Hamid
Imam and speaker at the Holly Mosque


Translated by Wathakker Website

en.wathakker.net