A girl I do not like
They deceived her by saying she's a beauty
Which only a harlot that will appreciate
- Categories: Muslim Women's Issues -
All praise is due to Allah alone, and prayers and peace of Allah be upon the last Prophet.
Who am I to like or dislike? I am the virtue; I am the sense of honor that dwells in the heart of every Muslim believes in Allah and the Final Day; I am the sound mind; I am the life with warmth by the lights of the Sharia; I am the inherited honor, I am the inherited shyness; I am the two banks of the river of chastity; I am the good that enshrouds all the lands that hold fast to me; I am the happy life.
After you knew who I am, I will not forget letting you know who the girl that I do not like is. She is a girl; she is a woman. But why do not I like her? I will reveal the answer to you. She is a girl that took off the bracelets of Islam and substituted them with the ties of fashion and chains of dependence; she is a girl that has slaughtered shyness and threw it away.
Every day she asks about fashion; she burns the midnight oil thinking about issues are against her nature; she thinks in trivial subjects and low ideas; she sees herself above the others; why? I do not know! It may be because of her ill-mind and her thinking highly of her false beauty.
They deceived her by saying she’s a beauty
Which only a harlot that will appreciate
Indeed, beauty is not what is imagined by this lost poor girl; rather the real beauty is the beauty of knowledge and morals. As for the girl that walked in the darkened slopes and muddy wild swamps; she is the ugliest one in the eyes of whoever is not deluded by what’s apparent.
On her face a touch of beauty
But under the clothe disgrace if it would appear
Her thinking highly of herself may be because of few dirhams had been provided to her by Allah Almighty. Indeed I am afraid that she may spend it; but in the end it will become anguish for her. Also, her thinking highly of herself may be because of her tongue that bleeds with backbiting, lies, curses and boasting of things she does not have. What evil characteristics lead their owner to destruction!
I return to our young and old girl that made herself putrescence attracting the bums who wander in the markets all day and night; they are not held back by a religion, sense of honor or shyness. Such a girl has removed the veil that beautifies her (the veil of shyness); she had never thought in serving her religion; she had never thought for an hour in the torment of the grave. Allah Almighty says: {For verily, they used not to look for a reckoning} [Surat An-Naba 78:27].
{إِنَّهُمْ كَانُوا لَا يَرْجُونَ حِسَاباً} النبأ: 27
Transliteration: Innahum kanoo la yarjoona hisaban
She had no hope or intention to be like the righteous women to serve this great institution (Islam) to enjoy the clothes of honor and be waited by Paradise as wide as the heavens and the earth. She cares only for the clothes of an actress and the story of another Parisian mannequin!
Are they one whom his leader is the messenger of Allah
And the other his guide is Abu Lahab??
Where is she whom Al-Zahra’ is her example
From the one who followed the mistake of the wood bearer (umm Jamil)
What an inattentive girl I swear by the Lord of the Ka’ba that she has lost! the Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Two are the types amongst the denizens of Hell I had never seen; the women who would be naked in spite of their being dressed, who are seduced (to wrong paths) and seduce others with them …” [Reported by Muslim].
«صنفان من أهل النار لم أرهما... ونساء كاسيات عاريات مميلات مائلات» رواه مسلم
Actually, she is naked. What a sin in the worldly life and shame among the relatives and neighbors is followed by severe punishment in Hereafter! Also, she seduces by the way of her walking and talking to naïve men.
How ill-minded she is! She thinks that those who advise her and feel pity for her (lest she may enter a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is people) are people who do not know civilization or real life. Actually, Allah the Great told the truth when He said: {Have you seen him who takes his own lust (vain desires) as his ilâh (god)? And Allâh knowing (him as such), left him astray, and sealed his hearing and his heart, and put a cover on his sight. Who then will guide him after Allâh?} [Surat Al-Jathiya 45:23].
{أَفَرَأَيْتَ مَنِ اتَّخَذَ إِلَهَهُ هَوَاهُ وَأَضَلَّهُ اللَّهُ عَلَى عِلْمٍ وَخَتَمَ عَلَى سَمْعِهِ وَقَلْبِهِ وَجَعَلَ عَلَى بَصَرِهِ غِشَاوَةً فَمَن يَهْدِيهِ مِن بَعْدِ اللَّهِ} الجاثية: 23
Transliteration: Afaraayta mani ittakhatha ilahahu hawahu waadallahu Allahu AAala AAilmin wakhatama AAala samAAihi waqalbihi wajaAAala AAala basarihi ghishawatan faman yahdeehi min baAAdi Allahi
Verily, this girl has followed her vain desires and has been deluded by false hopes. How much she had been warned in the worldly life and before death, but she insisted on walking in the mud and darkness. She did not care for the cry of those who warn from falling in the abyss or the cry of those who warn from the severe punishment on the Day of Judgment.
Days pass one after another while she is inattentive and heedless; she forgot that every spent day is a day had been taken from her life; she forgot that every hour she lives takes her closer to her grave that calls her every night while she is inattentive, although she will answer its call whether she liked or disliked. When she talks, her unveil appears clearly in her talking before its appearance at her face. She is enemy to herself, religion and society. When she talks to her friends and mates she swashes what she had seen in the satellite channels; although they are things just describing them is very shameful. Furthermore, she incites her friends to watch such channels; hence, she bears her own sin along with the sins of whoever sees these channels because of her guidance.
What a pity for women!
Lives had been lost and deeds had become strayed, although death calls her daily to her definite end. She might have been granted with a certificate that will be a proof against her instead of being a proof for her; furthermore, it may lead her to hellfire instead of leading her to Paradise. Actually, she is ignorant, even if she had graduated from the university and gained high positions. What a pity I have for the generations which are in the wombs of those imperfect women!
If the women suckled from Umayah
Their men would have suckled ignorance and laziness
Such a woman may be granted with a brother or husband accompanying her to the market then leaves her alone. And he may go with her, but there is no difference, because her eyes are unveiled along with the upper parts of her cheeks and her two palms are uncovered (if not the whole arms). She moves her hands as she likes and has her feet apparent to every shopper. So, I feel great astonishment and ask myself: “Then, why did her husband get out with her?”
The answer is well-known; it is she who got him with her to make him carry the purchased goods which she will buy; she made him a basket to her purchases!
Any girl like this mentioned one should know well that she may be among those who sleep at night while being cursed by Allah and get up at morning while being under the wrath of Allah and go and come while being under His wrath. Therefore, she should beware before the time in which there will be no wariness could bring benefit. Also, she should know that if she enjoyed all kinds of luxuries all her life then she is dipped one dip in Hellfire, she would deny seeing any pleasure; as it is mentioned in the Hadith.
I still look at our young girl while she enjoys and plays. What fa poor deluded girl has sunk in the sea of wishes and perished in the ocean of hope, although death is closer to her than her sole! She walks in the markets while knowing nothing about what Allah has prepared for her! She sleeps soundly knowing nothing about Allah’s torment that awaits her! She laughs with her friends, although Allah Almighty may be displeased with her! She had never thought in the narrow dark grave that she will be put in!
She doesn’t like to be reminded with death by anyone, because death spoils her forbidden lusts. She likes to deceive herself till death attacks her. At such time, she will not deceive herself, because death will not go without having his prey in his hand, and she will be among those who say: {Alas! Would that I had sent forth (good deeds) for (this) my life!} [Surat Al-Fajr 89:24].
{يَقُولُ يَا لَيْتَنِي قَدَّمْتُ لِحَيَاتِي} الفجر: 24
Transliteration: Yaqoolu ya laytanee qaddamtu lihayatee
And {Alas, my grief that I was undutiful to Allâh (i.e. I have not done what Allâh has ordered me to do)} [Surat Az-Zumar 39:56].
{يَا حَسْرَتَى علَى مَا فَرَّطتُ فِي جَنبِ اللَّهِ} الزمر: 56
Transliteration: ya hasrata AAala mafarrattu fee janbi Allahi
When time has come, death approaches and she meets what she used to escape from and dislike hearing about, you would see the weeping, tears and sighs. When she recalls the tape of the dark memories which had been soiled by doing mischief in the land, markets, seducing young men unveiling parts of the body and making sinful phone calls does not please Allah and betraying her parents and making Islam complains from her, she would say at the gates of Hereafter: {My Lord! Send me back, (99) so that I may do good in that which I have left behind!} [Surat Al-Muminun 23:99-100]. Verily, this is the gravest foolishness.
{رَبِّ ارْجِعُونِ (99) لَعَلِّي أَعْمَلُ صَالِحاً فِيمَا تَرَكْتُ} المؤمنون: 100-99
Transliteration: rabbi irjiAAooni (99) LaAAallee aAAmalu salihan feemataraktu
I say to such girl; you should know that your grave is awaiting you; it would be either a meadow of Paradise or a hole of Hellfire. If it was the first, you would be pleased and have your eyes delighted. However; if it was the second, then by Allah, how miserable and woeful you are! Therefore, would you sit down and consider; to which of the two holes will you go? Which of the two graves will be your fate?
O girl, do not you remember one of your friends you talked to her then you have been told that she spent her days (which have been destined to her by Allah) then dwelled the graves! What would you think about what she may say or do if she is allowed to return to life? Did you think and asked yourself; why did death take her and left me? It may be mercy from Allah Almighty to you; He might have wanted to remind you. Verily, he who takes lessons from whatever happens to others deserves to be called “prudent”.
If you are deceived by Allah’s Mercy and Forgiveness, you would remember this verse that Abu Hanifa (may Allah Almighty mercy him) used to repeat during his prayer at the end of the night and could not pass it because of his weeping lest he might be one of them (although his piousness and faith); it is the saying of Allah Almighty: {and there will become apparent to them from Allâh what they had not been reckoning} [Surat Az-Zumar 39:47].
{وَبَدَا لَهُم مِّنَ اللَّهِ مَا لَمْ يَكُونُوا يَحْتَسِبُونَ} الزمر:47
Transliteration: wabada lahum mina Allahi ma lam yakoonoo yahtasiboona
As for you, you had accompanied evil deeds along with feeling safety from Allah’s punishment; indeed, this is the gravest loss. Al-Hassan Al-Basri (may Allah mercy him) said: “There are people had been deluded by hopes of forgiveness till they got out the worldly life without having a single reward. One of those people would say: ‘I expect good from my Lord’ Verily, he told a lie; because if he expected good, he would do good deeds.” Then he recited the saying of Allah almighty: {and there will become apparent to them from Allâh what they had not been reckoning} [Surat Az-Zumar 39:47].
{وَبَدَا لَهُم مِّنَ اللَّهِ مَا لَمْ يَكُونُوا يَحْتَسِبُونَ} الزمر:47
Transliteration: wabada lahum mina Allahi ma lam yakoonoo yahtasiboona
O dear sister who wronged herself, do not be deluded by the western dissolute women and their likes who live in the fold of stables not civilization; because Allah Almighty described those by saying: {They are only like cattle - nay, they are even farther astray from the Path (i.e. even worse than cattle)} [Surat Al-Furqan 25:44].
{إِنْ هُمْ إِلَّا كَالْأَنْعَامِ بَلْ هُمْ أَضَلُّ سَبِيلاً} الفرقان: 44
Transliteration: in hum illa kaalanAAami bal hum adallu sabeelan
Then look at their end: {Certainly you (disbelievers) and that which you are worshipping now besides Allâh, are (but) fuel for Hell! (Surely), you will enter it} [Surat Al-Anbiya 21:98].
{إِنَّكُمْ وَمَا تَعْبُدُونَ مِن دُونِ اللَّهِ حَصَبُ جَهَنَّمَ أَنتُمْ لَهَا وَارِدُونَ} الأنبياء: 98
Transliteration: Innakum wama taAAbudoona min dooni Allahi hasabu jahannama antum laha waridoona
And He Almighty said as warning to us (Muslims): {while those who disbelieve enjoy themselves and eat as cattle eat; and the Fire will be their abode} [Surat Muhammad 47:12].
{وَالَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا يَتَمَتَّعُونَ وَيَأْكُلُونَ كَمَا تَأْكُلُ الْأَنْعَامُ وَالنَّارُ مَثْوًى لَّهُمْ} محمد: 12
Transliteration: waallatheena kafaroo yatamattaAAoona wayakuloona kama takulu alanAAamu waalnnaru mathwan lahum
Hence, would you like to be like them? I think that your skin is shivered feel the goose bumps while saying from the bottom of your heart: “I seek refuge with Allah”; therefore, I hope that you would say after it: “repentance O Lord!”
O Lord a repentance
That wipes wrongdoings and sins
Clearing the grief of the heart
Its gloominess and paleness
Brilliant stop:
Every girl should look at her face in the mirror. If she found it beautiful, she would hate wronging this beauty by an evil deed. On the other hand, if she found it an ugly face, she would hate having two ugly things; ugly face and ugly deed.
O inattentive girl, consider!
To this girl and her like I will deliver a couple of poetic advice that might move a still heart for perishing hope trying to reach it, until it become like stones or more stiff. A self that live in the land of Allah Almighty and never got to know him.
Malik Ibn Dinar May Allah have mercy on him says:
I approached the graves calling upon it
Where is the honorable of people and where is the despised
Where is whom humiliated with his authority
And where is the powerful over what he disposed
They all were dedicated with no tale
And they all died along with their tales
The girls of soil come and go
Showing the beauty of these looks
O you who ask me about who perished
Do not you have a parable from them
The caliph Omar Ibn Abdul Aziz (May Allah have mercy on him) says:
O poor guy ponder on your state
As long thinking and observance will benefit you
Stand on the graves and have a look while standing upon it
May Allah be your support what does the grave hide
I will end my words with the saying of Al-Shafe’i (May Allah have mercy on him):
By Allah if the boy lived in his life
A thousand years leading his affairs
Relishing every amazement
Enjoying it all his life
Not even once experiencing illnesses
Nor grief passing his mind
All of that, he didn’t see
Will not even equal a day in the grave
How Merciful Allah is! He grants her with days and years in order that she may get up from her inattentiveness and recheck her records in the sight of Allah and consider the fate of her likes, to take lessons from what happened to the others before she would be a lesson to others: {See they not that they are put in trial once or twice every year (with different kinds of calamities, disease, famine)? Yet, they turn not in repentance, nor do they learn a lesson (from it)} [Surat At-Taubah 9:126].
{أَوَلاَ يَرَوْنَ أَنَّهُمْ يُفْتَنُونَ فِي كُلِّ عَامٍ مَّرَّةً أَوْ مَرَّتَيْنِ ثُمَّ لاَ يَتُوبُونَ وَلاَ هُمْ يَذَّكَّرُونَ} التوبة: 126
Transliteration: Awala yarawna annahum yuftanoona fee kulli AAamin marratan aw marratayni thumma la yatooboona wala hum yaththakkaroona
Dear sister, I hope that you would excuse me, if I talked roughly. In fact it is a cry from one who feels pity for you; it is an advice from a forerunner; it is a scream from a concerned person. I wrote it by the sighs of my heart in order that it may be understood by your ears and answered by your heart and have your mind alerted because of it. Verily, therein is indeed a warning and a reminder for her who has a heart or gives ear while she is heedful.
I will stay blowing on the ashes
In hope that light returns to flair
And I will remain asking the Lord
Till someday people will return to their Most Merciful
I ask Allah to make your observing to learn lessons, your silence consideration and your talking remembrance. Also, I ask Him to make you guided one guides others. I ask Him to grant to you happy life, martyrdom and resurrection with ‘Aisha, Fatima, Khadijah and whoever had been granted with advice and calling to the way of Allah and sincerity to this religion. Ameen.
Muhammad bin Saad Ad-Dawsari
Al-Watan House