Free Mixing in Islam
Allah says what means: {And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts.} [Al-Ahzaab 33:53].
- Categories: Education and the Muslim family -
What is Considered Free Mixing?
· Men and women are permitted to be in the same place. (i.e. shops, streets etc)
· Men and women should avoid situations where they are crowded together or seated together.
· Repetitive acquaintance should be avoided to prevent familiarity.
· Business like discussion between man and woman is permissible when necessary.
Why is it Like This?
· Prevention of intimate relationships developing outside of marriage.
· Prevention of gossip and slander that can destroy relationships and families.
· Prevention of one party “falling in love” and being hurt.
· Prevention of children being born outside of marriage.
· Prevention of families being broken up.
The Evidence
Allah says: {And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse.} [Al-Isra’ 17:32].
{وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَىٰ} الإسراء: 32
Transliteration: Wala taqraboo alzzina
Allah says: {Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. (30) And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.)} [An-Noor 24:30-31].
{قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَزْكَىٰ لَهُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ ﴿٣٠﴾ وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ...} النور: 30-31
Transliteration: Qul lilmumineena yaghuddoo min absarihum wayahfathoo furoojahum thalika azka lahum inna Allaha khabeerun bima yasnaAAoona (30) Waqul lilmuminati yaghdudna min absarihinna wayahfathna furoojahunna
Allah says: {And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts.} [Al-Ahzaab 33:53].
{وَإِذَا سَأَلْتُمُوهُنَّ مَتَاعًا فَاسْأَلُوهُنَّ مِن وَرَاءِ حِجَابٍ ۚ ذَٰلِكُمْ أَطْهَرُ لِقُلُوبِكُمْ وَقُلُوبِهِنَّ} الأحزاب: 53
Transliteration: waitha saaltumoohunna mataAAan faisaloohunna min warai hijabin thalikum atharu liquloobikum waquloobihinna
The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) forbade men and women from being alone together. He said: “Never is a man alone with a woman except that Satan is the third party with them.” [Authenticated by Al-Albani]
«لا يخلون رجل بامرأة؛ فإن الشيطان ثالثهما» صححه الألباني
The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) also said: “Do not enter into the company of women.” A man then asked him: “What about her male in-laws?” The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) replied: “The in-law is the most dangerous.” [Agreed upon]
«إياكم والدخول على النساء. فقال رجل من الأنصار: يا رسول الله، أفرأيت الحمو؟ قال: الحمو الموت» متفق عليه
The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) also said: “It is better for one of you to be pierced by a steel pin in his head than to touch the hand of a strange woman.” [Al-Albani said: good authentic]
«لأن يطعن في رأس أحدكم بمخيط من حديد؛ خير له من أن يمس امرأة لا تحل له» قال الألباني: حسن صحيح
Allah says: {If you keep your duty (to Allah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery, etc.) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner.} [Al-Ahzaab 33:32].
{...إِنِ اتَّقَيْتُنَّ فَلَا تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ وَقُلْنَ قَوْلًا مَّعْرُوفًا} الأحزاب: 32
Transliteration: ini ittaqaytunna falatakhdaAAna bialqawli fayatmaAAa allathee fee qalbihi maradun waqulna qawlan maAAroofan
The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Any woman who puts on perfume then goes and passes by some men to let them find her scent is a type of adulteress.” [Reported as good by Al-Albani]
«أيما امرأة استعطرت فمرت على قوم ليجدوا ريحها فهي زانية» حسنه الألباني
Umm Salamah said: “When the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) completed the prayer, the women would get up to leave. He would then wait awhile before standing.” She said: “I believe -and Allah knows best- that he waited for a while to give the women an opportunity to depart before the men.” [Sahih al-Bukhari]
«عن أم سلمة: كان الرسول صلى الله عليه وسلم إذا سلم، قام النساء حتى يقضي تسليمه، وهو يمكث في مقامه يسيرا قبل أن يقوم. قالت نرى -والله أعلم- أن ذلك كان لكي ينصرف النساء قبل أن يدركهن الرجال» صحيح البخاري
It was related in al-Bukhari that women at the time of the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) did not circumambulate the Ka’bah along with the men. ‘A’ishah used to go around the Ka’bah at a good distance from the men and avoided mixing with them. Once another woman bade to her to go forward with her so they could touch the corner of the Ka’bah. ‘A’ishah refused to do so. [Sahih al-Bukhari]
«لم يكن يخالطن، كانت عائشة رضي الله عنها تطوف حجرة من الرجال، لا تخالطهم، فقالت امرأة: انطلقي نستلم يا أم المؤمنين، قالت: عنك ، وأبت» صحيح البخاري
Punishment For Zina
In This Life
Fornication is 100 Lashes
{The woman and the man guilty of illegal sexual intercourse, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allah, if you believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment. (This punishment is for unmarried persons guilty of the above crime but if married persons commit it, the punishment is to stone them to death, according to Allah’s Law).} [An-Noor 24:2]
{الزَّانِيَةُ وَالزَّانِي فَاجْلِدُوا كُلَّ وَاحِدٍ مِّنْهُمَا مِائَةَ جَلْدَةٍ ۖ وَلَا تَأْخُذْكُم بِهِمَا رَأْفَةٌ فِي دِينِ اللَّـهِ إِن كُنتُمْ تُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّـهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ ۖ وَلْيَشْهَدْ عَذَابَهُمَا طَائِفَةٌ مِّنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ} النور: 2
Transliteration: Alzzaniyatu waalzzanee faijlidoo kulla wahidin minhuma miata jaldatin walatakhuthkum bihima rafatun fee deeni Allahi in kuntum tuminoona biAllahi waalyawmi alakhiri walyashhad AAathabahuma taifatun mina almumineena
Adultery is Death
The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) said: “It is not permitted to shed the blood of any Muslim .... Except in three cases: a soul for a soul, the married person who commits adultery, and the one who forsakes his religion...” [Bukhari and Muslim]
«لا يحل دم امرئ مسلم، يشهد أن لا إله إلا الله وأني رسول الله، إلا بإحدى ثلاث: النفس بالنفس، والثيب الزاني، والمفارق لدينه التارك للجماعة» رواه البخاري ومسلم
The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) said: “When someone commits Zina, his faith comes out of him, it was on him like a canopy, and if he stopped, his faith returns back to him” [Reported by Abu Dawud and authenticated by Al-Albani].
«إذا زنى الرجل خرج منه الإيمان، كان عليه كالظلة، فإذا انقطع رجع إليه الإيمان» رواه أبو داود وصححه الألباني
In The Hereafter
The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) said: “On the Day of Resurrection, Allah will not speak to nor purify (Ibn Mu’awiah added: nor look at) three types of people: an old man who commits Zina, a lying king and a vainglorious poor person.” [Reported by Muslim]
«ثلاثة لا يكلمهم الله يوم القيامة ولا يزكيهم (قال أبو معاوية: ولا ينظر إليه) ولهم عذاب أليم: شيخ زان، وملك كذاب، وعائل مستكبر» رواه مسلم
The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) said: “We went on and arrived near a pit which was like and oven, out of which we could hear cries. We glanced into it and naked men and women, who cried out when the flames reached them from below. I asked: ‘Who are these?’…..As for the naked men and women; they are ‘Males and females who have committed fornication.’” [Bukhari]
«فأتينا على مثل التنور -قال: وأحسب أنه كان يقول- فإذا فيه لغط وأصوات، قال: فاطلعنا فيه، فإذا فيه رجال ونساء عراة، وإذا هم يأتيهم لهب من أسفل منهم، فإذا أتاهم ذلك اللهب ضوضوا، قال: قلت لهما: ما هؤلاء؟ ...وأما الرجال والنساء العراة الذين في مثل بناء التنور ، فإنهم الزناة والزواني» رواه البخاري
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